Three Ways You Can POSITIVELY Deal with Grief

I’d like to focus today on grief. I’ve had several significant events that have brought grief into my life. Interestingly, I wasn’t even aware of the impact they had on me until many months later. These events included a transition from one business to creating a new one, our son leaving for college within a week of my business changing, and then a very significant relationship that started professionally and grew into a personal relationship had a significant challenge and changed forms as well.

As I’ve gotten through each of the events above
and reflected on their impact on my life, I’ve thought of several ways grief can be good for us both personally and professionally.

Grief Reveals our Capacity to Commit

The first thing that is good about grief is that it shows us that we cared about, committed to, or were involved in something that was so significant that we miss it. We view it as a loss. This is a testament to our capacity for commitment. We committed ourselves to something or someone that it hurts that that they, or it, no longer exist in our lives. We need to celebrate the fact that we created something so significant that the loss has a real impact on our lives. That says something about who we are as a person.

Grief Reveals a Deeper Sense of Self

The second good thing about grief is that we need to recognize that it opens us up to even deeper levels of ourselves and our profound capacity to feel.  There is much truth to the expression that “the deeper the pain, the greater the joy.” It is all part of the same process. As we access these deep emotions, it helps us to engage with ourselves and others in a deeper and more authentic way.

Grief Opens Doors for New Beginnings

The third positive aspect of grief is that it is the sign of an ending. When there is a death or a loss, it is making room and space for the new. A new beginning, a new birth, a new life. Without leaving the old behind or clearing the clutter in our heads and in our lives (by choice or circumstance) we would soon find there is no place for anything new. Will we miss the old? Absolutely. But, it also provides the room necessary to introduce new and exciting relationships and opportunities.

As I have had time to process and grieve the loss of all three of these events, I now see good that has emerged and a deeper resilience I have developed.  My new business is thriving and a new energy has returned.  Our son has grown into an impressive and more independent and responsible young man.  Michael and I are finding new ways to enjoy one another.  The voids have been filled and replaced with new life, new experiences, new directions.

With grief comes sorrow, but if we can reframe how we think about grief and loss in a more positive way we can embrace it, understand that “this too shall pass” and know there will be better times ahead where our inner brilliance will shine in and through us!

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2 Responses to “Three Ways You Can POSITIVELY Deal with Grief”

  1. Solomina Ray says:

    It’s great to see a piece that de-mystifies grief, since as a culture, Americans typically don’t “do grief.” A much needed commentary on practical ways to handle grief. So wonderful that Dr. Whitaker’s knowledge is touching the business community and its top leaders.

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