Today more than ever, there are numerous ways that we can communicate with one another. For example, E-mail, Voicemail, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn to name just a few. These electronic means of communication are sure to evolve into yet un-thought of methods. But, despite all the ways we have to communicate with one another, we are not feeling very connected to other people or to ourselves. To avoid this problem of communication without connection, we need to look at the ways we are communicating to see if we can find more life-enhancing, enriching, and inspirational ways to relate.
What is the objective of effective communication? Ideally, we would like our communication to lead to mutually satisfying relationships. This requires a give and take from each other. You feel like you are making a difference or connecting, and likewise the person on the other side feels the same way. For there to be true communication and connection it has to be mutual.
The following 4-step process will help you more effectively communicate and truly connect with other people:
1. Set Your Intention-You have to want to effectively communicate and clearly set this as your intention. As simple and silly as that may sound it is really true. You have to want to communicate and connect in meaningful ways. It is from that foundation that you move on to connecting with others in different and more satisfying ways.
2. Take an Inventory of Who You Are – Next, you have to have a sense of who you are and what it is that you offer and bring to the table. What do you want from this relationship? What do you want from this work environment, community or commitment? You have to have an inner awareness of your own strengths, skills, and abilities and a desire to freely share this with others.
3. Outwardly Express Yourself – Once you have set your intention and created a framework for truly connecting with others, the outer expression will naturally follow. The outer expression will lead to more mutually satisfying relationships. People will be able to see a difference and you will be more authentic. Not only will you benefit from this authenticity but others will also. You will show up in a different way and will have a different and larger impact on the world.
4. Review Your Relationships – Finally, you need to look at the relationships that are in your life. Which ones replenish and refresh you? Which ones drain and deplete you? Which relationships help you to be a better version of yourself, and step up and shine brighter in your life? And which ones diminish or perhaps cast a shadow or bring out the darker side within you? Review the relationships in your life and choose healthy ones to help you shine brightly. The brighter you shine and discover your own inner brilliance then you are in a better position to help elicit that from others.
I invite you to focus on connecting in deep, true, transformative ways to other people in your personal and professional life. You will be amazed at the difference, seen almost immediately, of how much more enjoyable and meaningful your life will be and what you bring to the lives of others. By reflecting your light rather than casting a shadow, you will naturally brighten any environment you find yourself.
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